Friday, September 19, 2008


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Break me off a piece of that quiet life!

I am very much a person that tends to get overwhelmed quickly with tasks. To be honest, it's not the tasks's the fact that I have a very hard time saying "no" to all of the other stuff. It's not hard to fold a shirt, sort the socks, or shine the mirror, but tasks at home are so much harder to accomplish when you try to fit them in around all of your "yeses". Yet, the tasks have to be completed to make the house a home, and a "yes"...well, that means "yes".

In between being a wife, a mother, and all of the other things to which we commit, it's really hard sometimes to find a quiet moment for ourselves! In my profile, I use the following description:
"...a housekeeper, a cook, a chauffeur, a washer woman, a tailor, a nanny, a teacher, a tutor, a secretary, a gopher, a banker, a nurse, a wife, a lover, a mother, a daughter, a sister, a granddaughter, a daughter-in-law, a sister-in-law, an aunt, a friend, a provider, a volunteer, a church helper, a prayer warrior, a cheerleader, a psychologist, an organizer, and a social activities director..."
Do you identify with any of these? I'm betting whether you're single, married, have no children, or have lots of children, that at least a few of these are roles in your life, too!

Earlier this year, I found a blog called Home Sanctuary. Rachel Anne continually reminds us that "Sanctuary is in the Small Things". What a concept! Each week day she challenges us to complete a single task in her daily post. Sometimes they require a little extra time ~ like "spot-clean your carpet". Sometimes they are super easy ~ like "make your bed". Sometimes they are serious ~ like "accept your blame". Sometimes they are silly ~ like "do something silly". Sometimes they remind us to take care of others ~ like "appreciate your Dude". And sometimes they remind us to take care of ourselves ~ like "pamper your feet", or like today's small thing!

Today's small thing was to "deliberately De-Stress by using one of your favorite techniques." We were encouraged to take a nap, blog, watch a movie ~ anything that would help us to simply "be".

I NEEDED it this week. For several weeks, I've been struggling with illness, and this week was the worst of them. However, when you're a wife and mother, you don't really get to call in sick! And it was one of those weeks where lots of things were scheduled to happen at all at once ~ a field trip with Twister, a training session for me, PTA duties, teaching Tornado's church class, and on and on and on ~ almost every minute of the week was accounted for something. Some of the activities were really fun, and all of them were worthwhile, but none of them were relaxing!

I was so excited to see the small thing for today! For the last several years, my mom, sister, and I have gone to a "Kaleidoscope of Homes". It's been scheduled all week; and though I love going every year, I had really been thinking about backing out today. After being sick for a lot of the week, not getting enough sleep and being tired, and needing to catch up on a million and one things at home, I was feeling a little bit guilty about taking a whole day simply to tour homes...and then I read today's small thing. I decided right then and there to get myself ready for the day and to go enjoy some quality time with two of the most important women in my life. We had so much fun seeing the creativity of others and just getting to be together! Then, after school was out, I took Tornado and Twister out for ice cream. It was all a really wonderful way to De-stress!

l Anne has added a new component to her weekly challenges. Each Friday she hosts "Company Girl Coffee". It's a time to reflect on the "small things" of the week and how they brought a little order to the chaos, and then write about one or more of them. You can then relax a little more by having a cup of virtual coffee, and maybe even a warm slice of virtual pumpkin bread, as you read about how others are creating sanctuary in their homes!

Pull up a chair, and let me pour you a cup!


Alicia said...

Amen Sister! I can so relate. Sorry to hear you've been sick, glad to hear you're feeling better though. We have one of those home tours here this time of year also.

Yay for ice cream!

Jill said...

Sounds like fun... I've never been on a home tour! That sounds like something I need to do! Glad you're feeling better!

forgetfulone said...

I'm so glad you got to relax a little, on command from Rachel Anne! I hope you're feeling well soon. Thanks for stopping by my blog.

mholgate said...

Hi there! As a mom to 5, relaxing is an absolute requirement for me, or I would go crazy! I recently took a 24 hour retreat with my closest girlfriends up to a lake cabin. (first time away from the kiddos overnight in almost 3 years!) It was so wonderful to just take a day to relax and get a fresh filling from the Lord. I highly recommend it, even if it's only getting away for a few hours by yourself!

I also understand the illness thing. I always say that one day I'm going to write a book, and it's going to be titled "Mommies Don't Get Sick Days!"

Thanks for stopping by Sevenmatters. Come by for coffee again soon...there's plenty of Mocha Almond Fudge creamer to go around! :)

Rachel Anne said...

Kaleidoscope of Homes! What fun, what exhausting fun! I love to take the tours and you're is a great way to spend a day with special people. Way more fun than doing it by yourself. I've toured alone before and you don't get to criticize or ooh and ahh and that's really the best part.

I'm so glad you're feeling's rotten when you don't feel good and everyone STILL needs you just as much!

Thanks for the kind's the Company Girls that keep me inspired, and the fact that there are dirty socks laying around for no reason. There is no end to the Small Things, and they all matter! :)

Nancie said...

I too struggle with having too many things that I think I should do and having problem saying "no" :)I am so glad you went along with your mom, sister to "Kaleidoscope of Homes" and have had such blessed time! I am glad this has have you to de-stress and relax. Thanks for sharing with us. Thanks too for visiting my blog and your encouraging comment on my post. Thanks for your prayers! I am praying for you too. Take care and may God bless and guide you as you serve Him in your various callings. May His joy be your strength always!

Crazy Lady Cheryl said...

Thanks for stopping by my place. Good job for taking that time to take care of yourself! (And I love that Rachel Anne 'forces' us to do that!)

Channah said...

The home tour sounds neat - I've never been on one.